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tobby1

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Hi guys, forgive me but I am going to cut loose for a little while, if you don't like my views, I apologize, not my intent to upset anyone or get into politics, just my opinion.
I have one heck of allot of questions and it just seems to me no one has any answers that are worth you know what. Questions like why is my son in a place where he gets shot at everyday, and bombed when he is sleeping, and the vehicle he is riding in does not have all of the armour it should so now his hearing is only at 50%. Why are the chances of his coming home alive and not hurt so bad, and getting worse everyday. Why the djklaodhn are we in some freaking country called Afghanistan. My kid just wanted to go to college, We are a poor family, so he did the right thing and joined the guard, no war at the time. He was only a 17 year old boy, but his signing those papers, without his parents knowledge got him in for 10 years like it or not. Why when his time was up, he served his 10 years, went to Iraq, came home messed in the head, missed 2 years of his son growing up, they send him back in nov. and say oh you have to stay 18 months even if your time is up, if you are deployed before your release date you don't get out. He signed a contract, which they always say he has to follow to the letter or else. But they can change it and do as they please. He signed up for the guard, the recruiter told him don't worry guard never leaves the US, you will never see war. He has seen war and he has seen hell. Is there anybody in this whole world that can tell me how to keep my heart from breaking everyday when I hear of him getting bombed and shot at, when they tell us his hum-be got blown up, let us know how they are later. So far he has stayed alive and in one piece, but why isn't this over. please i wish it would just end. Why when he is risking his life, he has to worry about his wife and boys having the things they need and being able to pay the bills. How can our great country do this to our kids. And to top it all off now every time I go to shopping in the city, I see all the war protesters, and they wave their signs and scream at me for the support out troops stickers on my car. Why do people become so fickle and go from supporting the troops so much to hating them and giving them a bad way.
Well again I am sorry if I upset any one or anything. Sorry to ramble so long, but it is so very hard. I know God will take care of it all, and all the things you say about things like this, but God help me my heart hurts. and I get so very mad at the way it is and no one has a answer for any of it.










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Im very sorry for you and your family. :love: I hope he comes home safe and very, very soon. And please dont let stupid people bother you when they scream and yell... most people I think who are against the war are not against the soldiers fighting it.. And the ones who are.... well, like I said.. stupid. I truly feel for you and your family and cant imagine what it must be like. :love: Take care and know that there are people who think people like your son are the real heroes of this world and would never criticize them or take for granted their sacrifices. I know that probably means little to a mom hurting for her son and That I do understand. Im sorry you are going through this.


I hope he comes home soon.
 
I really have no idea what you are going though.
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But I am grateful to you and your son for your sacrifice!
 
I am so sorry that you're going through this, as well as your son and his family. Please know that I (as well as millions of others) are grateful for the sacrifices he is making for this country. I do hope this ends soon, and that when he comes home, he will know what a hero he is.

Many of my friends in college were ROTC, and so have been deployed several times now to Iraq and Afghanistan. I think about them all the time and how brave they are. (and how heartbroken their families are when they get the call to go on another tour).

My best to you and your whole family. And to all of the soldiers out there, whether home or away.
 
:love: You know I have nothing but pride in you and your son. You are a strong person and your son has a praying mother to be there for him and now he has a praying sister in Christ who will also cover him in prayer. I don't really have the right words to help you keep peace in your heart but I think you know he is being protected by a loving God. I can not begin to tell you how grateful I am for men and women like your son who are willing to sacrifice everything for their country. It's ok to be angry at times but try and not let that anger consume you.

Scream as loud as you want and cry as much as you want and then take the next step to move forward. This too shall pass. War times are very hard and a mothers love is constant so hang tough,trust in the Lord and know that I am here when you want to vent.
 
I know that there are no words to make this better for you, but it is helpful that you can let it out here. You know your SA family will listen. You can only do what you have been doing. It must be working as your son is still alive. I will keep you and your son in my prayers.
 
I think the war is unpopular across the country. All the questions you ask are legitimate. I want to ask why we never finished in Afganistan and why we went to Iraq.

I don't think the protestors are against the troops as much as you may feel they are. Yes, some are misguided and are too stupid to realize that our soldiers do not have a choice. They go where they are ordered to go or they face horrible consequences!

If I were you, the next time someone yelled horrible things at you for seeing your support the troops signs, stop your car and say, "Yes, I support the troops. I support my son and his fellow soldiers who are brave enough to stand up for their country. Did you? No, well, instead of insulting his mother, perhaps you should put down your sign and defend this country yourself! Let's see what would happen to us then! What ashame you are so ignorant!" Then, get in your car and drive on.

These people are ignorant.

You know, I can't imagine what you are coping with, I don't have children. I can't imagine how frightened you must be every day.

What would our country be if brave young men and women didn't step up and serve?

I'll keep your son in my prayers and hope he is home with his family soon!
 
Make sure he gets everything documented (hearing loss, explosions he has been in, any injuries) and keep copies of everything. Many folks are coming home with long term neurological issues, and the military will not treat these problems if you cannot prove that they are service connected. Document everything now-esp since he has dependents
http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2007/04/06/AR2007040601821_pf.html
http://neurophilosophy.wordpress.com/2007/05/14/traumatic-brain-injury-on-the-front-line/

Another problem is that these blast-related brain injuries differ from other severe head traumas, and the complexity of treating returning troops with "closed-head" injuries is taxing an already overburdened military health-care system. There is not a neurosurgeon who works in a trauma unit anywhere in the United States who doesn't know what to do when an ambulance brings in a biker who has suffered a severe head injury in a highway accident. The standard care involves using calcium channel blockers to protect damaged nerve cells against further injury, intravenous diuretics to control brain swelling and, if the swelling becomes too great, removal of the top of the skull to allow the brain to swell without increasing neurological damage. This is what surgeons did in the case of ABC News anchor Bob Woodruff, who suffered severe brain injuries from an IED blast in Baghdad last year.

All this works with the common types of severe head injuries, but it does not work with brains damaged by shock waves. Despite the usual interventions and treatments, the majority of blast-injury patients who have neurological damage do not fully recover. There is a growing understanding within the neurosurgical community that blast injuries are different from those caused by penetrating or skull-fracture trauma. It is thought that shock waves damage the brain at a microscopic, sub-cellular level. That's why surgeons who are quite capable of reconstructing the skull of a motorcycle crash victim -- something for which they have been well trained -- struggle to come up with treatment and rehabilitation techniques for the explosion-damaged brains of troops.
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Thank you all for your kind words, I appreciate my SA family letting me vent. I was in a bad place yesterday as I had gone to town and that was when some of the misguided war protesters were yelling and such. I am against the war myself, I am against all war, my son is also, but we both also understand the world does not work the way we would like, I have nothing against people protesting the war, that is a freedom, and that is what my son is fighting for is freedoms. I know God will take care of him in his way, We are documenting very very well as I am aware that getting benefits can be a challenge, as the men and woman from Gulf war who have problems from agent orange, and they say documentation helps so much. Well thank you all so much, and I pray God blesses you all.
 
You should change the writing under your son's picture in your avatar to say "our hero"! :)

We are here for you. I cannot imagine how difficult this time is for you. Sometimes, you just need to say these things outside to keep you sane inside. Type away. Although I don't know, personally, what you are coping with, I will listen and offer you a shoulder for support!

I pray he will be home soon and he will stay safe while he is there!
 
thanks wolfie, I am very proud of him also, Even with all the worry I am proud that he choose to do this and thinks enough of his country and freedom to fight for it, I know one way you can make me feel better, send me all the Chocolate Sweepstakes & Giveaways, every peice of it. I will sit around and do nothing but eat chocolate for the next 15 months until he comes home. What do you say are you ready to give up your complete stash??? :laughing: have a feeling I am in trouble here. :whistle:
 
Well, there are a few issues here!

1. I don't want to give you heart disease because you'll want to be around when he comes home! :headbang:

2. Weight Gain: If you gain a ton of weight he won't be able to wrap his arms around you!

3. Shipping costs! OUCH! Chocolate weighs a ton. :laughing:

4. ll1 and inthesticks will intercept! :nono: I would hate for all that great chocolate to end up in their hands!

But, if you need chocolate, I'm your gal! Let me know what you need. Remember, Wofie preaches moderation. Well, unless it is Wolfie eating chocolate! :laughing:
 
Well; thanks wolfie, but if I can't eat it all I better just leave it alone, cause I love my chocolate, and once I start, stopping just doesn't come into the picture. :laughing: And far as wrapping his arms around me, that already is pretty hard, because momma is alittle large. :laughing: Momma use to be very small, but wen I broke my back, I broke the food bank too. :laughing: Went from a size 1 to size never you mind in no time. My boy still says he thinks of me as being skinny until he sees me, Maybe someday I will get back to being smaller again, but not really tops on my list, just more to love for now, long as the health is ok, I don't mind, but better not get anymore or might scare the neighborhood kids. :laughing: But please think of me when you eat the chocolate and send me good vibes. thanks allot and take care. I try to keep it up beat, but don't be surprised if from time to time you hear me whine until that boy of mine is back home where he belongs. I do have 2 wonderful grandsons and a very sweet daughter in law to keep me busy. And my daughter is about an hour away, she is a big help to. but noone can take the place of my son, we are kind of special close, I think allot of boys are with their mom's. Don't get me wrong, I am sure and glad that his wife is the #1 woman in his life, but I also know momma is right there in his heart too, as he is in mine. wish you all allot of wins and thanks for your kindness. God bless
 
When is he due home? Is it March 2010?

I have some great chocolate recipes! Let me know, I'm happy to share! :sunny:

Whine all you want! I like to eat Lindt Truffles while whining though! :laughing:

Hang in there. The time will pass quicker than you think it will and you will all be together again soon.
 
We have a tenative date home of march 2010, I just hope it is not like when he was in Iraq, they kept moving the date farther and farther away. He ended up almost 5 months over his stay, but it didn't matter the day he came home, nothing did. His entire platoon made it back alive and only 1 wounded, and it was not a terrible wounded, (all are, I mean he is 100% healed and well) I just pray they can do that again. I know he is with one heck of allot of great people who are great at what they do, But I am a mommy and we tend to worry when the chicks are to far away from the nest. :laughing: thanks everyone for the prayers, that is the most important thing anyone can do for any of the men and women over there, so please do.
 
((hugs))

I have a one year old son and it breaks my heart to be away from him more than a few hours. I cannot imagine what you are going through! But I am so proud of your son fighting for me and everyone else ~ and I will pray he comes home soon to you, safe and healthy!

Being a mom can be so heartbreaking! They should have told us that beforehand. :)
 
thanks staryeyes, some days are good, some are terrible. He called me this morning, which it was soo wonderful to hear his voice, but it ended bad, he had to go all the sudden and I could hear all the bombs exploding, things like that scare me to death. He told me along time ago, that when they are in their camp sometimes they shoot bombs into the camp and they all have to run to the bunkers. their little trailer rooms are suppose to be bomb resistant, but still can get hurt or blown up. He did call later and real quick say I am ok, don't cry. I love that boy so much and it scares me sooo much some time. It is so nice that we can talk on the cell phone or phone cards, (his cell phone he calls home with, he got it from ATT, it is a international phone) But then it is bad to because if you hear something terrible on the news and you try to call him and he is gone on a mission, you might not hear anything for 2 weeks, and think allot of bad things in 2 weeks. I do thank God for the phone thing, it is so different then the way wars were years ago, you would'nt hear anything for months and then only letters. But the phone is pretty exspensive, but I really don't care I still call. thanks again for all the kindness and God Bless you all and thank you for the prayers, that is the best anyone can do for him and me.
 
OK, Wolfie has a plan. Let's fatten the boy up! :headbang: If we can put some pounds on him, we can get him a medical discharge. I'll donate some chocolate! :sunny:
 
Wolfie said:
OK, Wolfie has a plan. Let's fatten the boy up! :headbang: If we can put some pounds on him, we can get him a medical discharge. I'll donate some chocolate! :sunny:


The way they are doing now, they probably would not give him a medical discharge if he grew a second head! And if they did they would say it was a "personality disorder"
http://www.thenation.com/doc/20070409/kors
Town is not alone. A six-month investigation has uncovered multiple cases in which soldiers wounded in Iraq are suspiciously diagnosed as having a personality disorder, then prevented from collecting benefits. The conditions of their discharge have infuriated many in the military community, including the injured soldiers and their families, veterans' rights groups, even military officials required to process these dismissals.

They say the military is purposely misdiagnosing soldiers like Town and that it's doing so for one reason: to cheat them out of a lifetime of disability and medical benefits, thereby saving billions in expenses.
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I know, no sense of humor :)
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They are very strict about the weight standards. He would not be seeking disability benefits either. :)
 
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