Please keep us in your thoughs and prayers

I think his list has already started with 'bury head in sand'...he got mad at me for telling him that we needed to update his resume and start looking to see what is out there. I know that he doesn't want to change jobs...I don't want to change jobs, but it is looking like we are changing jobs in just a few weeks like it or not. He is willing to lock down all the money, but not prepare any other way. Does that even begin to make sense?

I was telling him about a job that I heard about in a town (about as far away as he drives now) and he has already shot it down. Says he can't earn enough...how does he know this? Lighting bolt shoot out of the sky and tell them how much they are making on the hour? One of my friend's neighbors are working there and they are needing help. I do know that it is a little less than what we are making now, but if he could find someone to ride with it may be worth looking into. Plus, she said that they have really good benefits. Now what 'good benefits' to some people are, and 'good benefits' are to us might be two different things, but I am willing to give it a look and just see...what could it hurt???

If we get through this process and are still married and both alive and with both eyes I will be surprised!
 
Tammy, job loss is a horrible stressor and major hit to someone's ego. Give him a couple of days to digest the news. He isn't thinking about new job yet, he is still in panic mode over the news he just received.

The worst thing you can do right now is come down hard. Find your state's unemployment info online and see what is available for him/your family. Check out the health insurance options as I know this is a major issue for you right now. Check out the job search services that he may qualify for. While he is still working, you take the bull by the horn and do the prep work for his unemployment/job search.

Most importantly, be supportive. Again, it's a strike to his ego. So, make sure you are supportive of him and don't make everything about the job loss or reduction in income. He already understands that. He is worried too. Be supportive and helpful and try so hard not to fight about money.

Thinking of you and hoping everything works out for the best!
 
I am trying...really I am. I was being nice. He was telling me that there wasn't any jobs to be had...so I named off two that I had heard of. I am just keeping my eyes and ears open. He is the one that is telling me to prepare, prepare, prepare. So I am trying to prepare. And when I do, it is preparing the wrong way :scratch: I asked him, what do you want me to do to prepare then...his answer, when we get the dishwasher fixed, don't use heated dry...REALLY that is all you want me to do??? I know it is overwhelming, but he has to talk this out some.

Some of his thought processes are a little 'off' right now to say the least... :whistle: He never has responded well to change and if I don't force him to wake up we will be sitting here with no job and all we will have done is saved $1.32 on our electric bill from not using our heated dry...
 
I have been where you are and I know the fear you are feeling and I know all I could do at the time was cry. Both of us were out of a job and I just let myself get sick with worry. I promise you it will work out. First just put your faith in God. I know you know this already. I found scripture that had to do with God being my provider and I posted them on my fridge. Just keep praising him and thanking him no matter what. I know it's hard. I would praise him and then I would cry. One other thing that helped me was to realize he has never let me down. You all will get through this. That's what we do.
 
Tiff,

The problem is, he's the bread winner (even if you work, it's a man thing) and his mind is going a billion miles a minute about what will happen in the next 6 months AFTER he's unemployed.

Women are different. They are better about getting down to business during a crisis. Honestly, women are.

A guy often gets totally frozen in fear. So, that $3 to him is something he can understand and grasp. It doesn't sound logical, and it's not, but men are often thinking in dollar terms NOW not really long term of what to do next.

I would suggest that you put together his resume for him and start looking on monster, careerbuilders and especially local newspapers online.

Most of the major online companies have a search feature or a daily update of jobs sent to you. Use them.

I know, I know, you want HIM to do it. But he obviously needs help right now.


And remember, WE ARE HERE!!!

You can always post a cover letter and ask for advise to make it sound better, we're here to help you.
 
I worry every day that this will happen to Bob too - they have already reduced then shut down the 2nd line and cut their pay some - now, I'm waiting for the other shoe to drop!!! :nono: :cry:

I remember when we tranfered to Va. from Cuba, when Bobby was young, and Bob was a stay at home dad for months. I was bringing home the bacon, so the $$$ wasn't the big issue, but since he'd always had a job, his ego was badly bruised and he felt worthless during that period.

I think I was actually happier than he was when he got a job!!!

I agree with wolfie & gorgor - his thought processes are probably 180 out from yours right now, so let him fret/stew/whatever he needs to do to get through it and out the other side.

I personally think layoffs are cruel - they leave you with the impression you could possibly get your job back, so it's even HARDER to move on!!!

Hang in there, when he starts to spin, talk to us instead of fighting with him, drop positive thoughts on him from time to time to let him know you believe in him and gl!!! :love:
 
Also, when you check with your state's unemployment office, they might have a retraining program to learn a new trade. Our state has that with so many auto workers out of work. It might be an opportunity to start a whole new career. God bless you--I know it can be very stressful.
 
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