On my own

tiffandrock

tiffandrock

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To all my sweepstakes friends that I have met through here. I am sorry I haven't been around lately. Lots of things have been happening in my life. To make a long story short, Rocky and I split up, Some of you know why. But it just wasnt working out. Now I am living at the house with Kailey. I have full custody of her, for right now, until we get a divorce. I am currently having to go on food stamps, etc, and having to seek child support. Until I find a job. Its going to be really hard. But its better then living with Rocky anymore. He's two different people.
Also I cant use the computer much anymore. He stole ours, took it to his moms. So I have to use my moms. I only have a limited amount of time to use the computer, and its usually just to look for a job, or fill out stuff, check my email. So no more sweeping for me, unless I'm lucky to have more time. I will still come on here and read some of the posts. Well ttyl
Thanks
Tiffany
 
I don't know you but I feel sympathetic of your situation. I have gone throw something of the sort myself. I hope things get better for you.
 
Tiff I am so sorry things didn't work out for you guys. You will both be in my prayers. :love: Hang in there divorce is tough but you will survive. I do hope you can find work soon. Are you still working for your dad? God bless and be strong.
 
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Hi,Tiffany

I noticed that you have been missing for a long time and was concerned about you. I know you shared often in the forums and I admire you for having the strength to make your decision and create a better future, no matter how difficult it is sometimes. You are young and have the rest of your life ahead of you and I'm sure you will make the most of it and sort out what is important and what is not. You are lucky to have parents who help you and Kailey.
I wish you all the best.
 
Oh Tiff, I am sorry , I know you will make it an will make this a good thing. Hang in there and talk to us when you can.
 
:wave: So sorry that you weren't able to work things out, but you have to do what is right for you and Kailey. It may be an ending for one part of your life but it is also a chance for a new beginning. I have been where you are and it definitely will make you a stronger better person. Hang in there and know that we are here for you. Big Hugs!
 
Oh, Tiff, I'm so sorry. I'm sure you are doing what is right for you and for Kailey. You two are lucky to have each other. It probably doesn't seem like it right now, but things will get better.
 
This has been a wierd but great experience. I was a person that was really depressed trapped in a mentally abusive marriage. I depended on everyone else but myself. I go so sick and tired of it, and I got some help, at Hubbard house. They helped me realize that no one should have to put up with that. And the reason I was feeling the way I was, was because of the abuse. I am now away from Rocky, for the most part, we talk when it has to do with Kailey. He still tries to control me, or muniplate me (like saying you won't be able to work a job, you cant clean the house without me, you will be crawling back to me).
Well I feel alot happier with myself. I am learning to stand up for myself, make decisions for myself. It is hard, and very scary, but I know I can do it.
 
It is scary, but that is what the person that is controlling you want...they want you to be so scared that you want make a move. You are so strong...you took that first step! Every little step from now on will come easier. It doesn't mean it will be easy ~ it just means that you will be able to handle it all!

You know my email and I think you have my phone number as well...feel free to use them...I know what it is like to be where you are. You and Kailey are going to be fine...you have a lot of love and support...
 
I had to call the police today. Rocky still has the key to the house. And he came by and was sitting there watching tv eating pizza. He wont give me any money. And he was being mean, and telling me i had to pay bills, take out trash etc. (Trying to scare me)) and in the same breath he was saying he loved me, and he wants me back, etc. Whatever.
Well they kicked him out, but the police won't take the key from him. I have to go back to court I guess.
 
Change your locks. Go stay somewhere else or have someone stay with you until you can.
You've done the right thing for yourself & your child. No one should ever have to live that way. Stay strong, stay connected to a support system, and use all of the resources available to you to help get you on your feet.
 
:cheers: I am so proud of you Tiff for sticking to your guns. You go girl! I just know after hearing that you are going to be fine. You don't have to take anymore crap from him.
 
He is scared of jail, so he won't do anything to make him go to jail.

I have been calling all these agencies to try and get financial help with my utilities. Well they have these appt lines. And they only stay open for like an hour. It seems like everyone is calling it. Because I cannot get through. I even came to my moms house to use her phone and my phone.
I called the child support enforcement agency. They said it could take 60 days or so to get any info from when I filed. I guess I just need to take him to court.
I also want to file for divorce but do not know how.
Rockys parents are actually for us getting a divorce. Its wierd situation.
 
You know that we've talked about some of this in the past, and that I was married to a verbally-, mentally, and physically-abusive person. So, you can always pm me about anything.

As for getting a divorce, it's as simple as filling out and filing the paperwork for the courthouse--if it's amicable. If it's not, you have to sue Rocky for divorce; and that's when things can get dirty. At that point, it's best to get a lawyer; but I know you can't afford one. You can still handle it yourself, but it involves knowing how to fill out, word, and file motions to the courthouse. Hopefully, yours will be easier than mine was. My ex was also a compulsive liar who had know qualms about lying in court. Ours ended up being the worse-case scenario you can imagine for getting a divorce--dragged out over almost six years of hell.
 
I found one, I think its called the three rivers clinic. Or something like that. They help women with legal issues, if they are in domestic violence situtations. They aren't open on the weekends. So monday I will call them, and hopefully get the ball rolling.

Btw yesterday I told Rocky he could come get some of his stuff. Well he went in the house and locked the outside door, so I couldn't get in. Then he did something really disgusting on my bed, and to my clothes (if you can imagine it starts with an M)
Well I knew what he was doing, So I banged on the door. When he finally came out I confroted him, yelled at him. I was pissed. Well he then followed me to my parents house. He finally left for work. I was really upset, and told my parents. They told me to call the police. A policeman came over, wrote up a report, violation of injunction. But said he can't really arrest him because of two reasons. 1. I said he could come over.. 2. What he did wasn't violent or sexual battery or anything like that.
But from now on if he wants to come get his stuff he needs to have a police escort. And also I need to go change the injunction, and try and get child support.
Rocky was mad, and thought what he did was no big deal. Everyone I talk to thinks its sick and wierd.

Sorry about the too much info, I just need to vent. Rocky is trying to muniplate me, his parents are doing it to. They want to see kailey every week. But when they don't like something I do, like calling the police on Rocky. They bad mouth me, say I'm a horrible mom. etc. They are so flaky fake
 
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