When are kids self supporting?

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annielouise

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Now, don't get me wrong, I love my wonderful son!

See, I figured out that he costs us about $10k a year while he's in college (he has a scholarship). And he's talking seriously about graduate school. Plus, I think every adult child in my neighborhood still lives at home!

I'm just wondering when modern day parents stop having to supplement their kids? Back many years ago, we graduated college at 21, took over my DH's parents loans for his college (in addition to our own), and never asked for any money again from either parents (except one very short term loan - a few weeks only - in the middle of a move when we were waiting for the first house sale to finalize).

I'd like to think that someday soon we can add that $10k to retirement savings! Is that even plausible?
 
For me it was when they left home but I can tell you their dad still gives both the girls money at times. I am not crazy about it because I think it enables them. He and I are not married anymore.

I really do think we create problems when we keep giving them things. This is just my opinion.

Oh and congrats to your son for getting that scholarship.
 
It's hard to tell especially during these times. Everyone is different when it comes to cutting off the financial support.

Even though my parents could afford it, I paid for my own car, gas, insurance, and paid for my own college. Same with my husband.

They only helped out in desperate times like my transmission going, etc.

I also had to pay $30.00 per week for rent after high school. My husband also had to pay rent.

My mother gave me back some of it after I got married. It was mainly a responsibility learning thing.

My husband and I don't plan on paying for our children's college tuition if they choose to go. Like my parents, we'll be there if there's an impossible situation; but, like us, they need to take out their own student loans and be responsible to pay them back.

Maybe, your son will become rich and support you and your husband!
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My husband and I jokingly tell ours that the day they turn eighteen they are outta here!. :laughing: The truth is though that as long as they are in school we will help them. They will of course have to help themselves also. Going to school and having a job is a must.
 
I must be a horrible mother. My youngest left home when he was 14 1/2. He never looked back - he had four scary years; however is a loving sweet man of 30 with his own plumbing business. My oldest, the NASCAR driver, left home the day after his high school graduation. He move to Ventura to work as an instructor at a race karting track.
 
[size=20pt]You NEVER have to stop supporting them! They will drain you dry until the day you DIE! [/size]





... if you let them.

I agree with the "throw their arse out at 18" camp.



(since when are our post being automatically edited? What is that all about????

I didn't know that S. U. CK. is a dirty word!!!! IS IT????

So just substitute S. U. CK. for that politcally correct word of "drain"


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..... :laughing: there! I feel better now!!! :crazytongue: )
 
They call him Loren "Thread Killer" Brothers, the loudest, kid-hatin'est, filter bypassin'est hombre on the boards.
 
Loren, I agree with you on the s-u-c-k issue!

It is not a bad word. When we moved to TX and my son was told it was a bad word, I argued against that. I told him he could say it whenever he wanted and have the teacher call us if they had a problem. I will defend everyone's right to use it!

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The happiest families I've ever known were big traditional farm families where all the generations live together (from 99 year old great grandparents to babies in diapers) and the idea of leaving the old home place would be unthinkable. Everybody works and contributes, but they all come home to one big loud crowded house. That is how humans lived for tens of thousands of years before we became industrialized, its a shame modern culture has to be so lonely and isolated.
 
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