Travis and Caitlyn's schoolmates killed in accident

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Three Muhlenberg North juniors were killed the other night in a auto accident when the driver lost control of the truck and flipped it upside down into some water. Travis and Caitlyn knew all three of these boys and the whole community is in shock!

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Please pray for these boys family and friends. I can't imagine going through all of this as a mother or a friend either one. What a terrible tragedy.
 
Oh wow. That is so sad when young people die.
Speaking of dying. We just found out my great grandmother died today. She was 95 years old. It's not as big of a shock, because we knew she was slowly dying, and she was just in pain. So its a blessing, she doesn't have to suffer anymore.

I hope travis and caitlyn deal with this as best they can.
 
Caitlyn said school was so weird today. Not really classes just sorta kids hanging out in the halls and grief counselors on hand to talk to the kids.

What was so strange is that we also had a girl that graduated last year to die Friday after having an auto accident Thursday. They said she was in a lot of pain and had come home and had taken her pain medicine and muscle relaxer and was still hurting. Her boyfriend then gave her one of his pain pills and they are thinking that maybe that is what caused her to pass away ~ she had just turned 19. Her Momma died having her from blood loss when I was pregnant with Travis and I hate that her family is going through even more pain now! It is such a sad story!
 
:cry: So sorry to hear about those tragedies. That's alot for anyone to deal with.
Will keep the families in my prayers.
 
Took Caitlyn to the funeral home last night. Of course the place was packed. They had all three boys at the same place. I didn't go in, don't do well in funeral home since Momma and Pam died and this was the funeral home that Pam was in.

Caitlyn was only in there for about 10 minutes before she came out. The boy that she knew the best is the one that upset her the most. His Momma had put his cellphone in his hand and the kids were calling it and leaving him messages and telling him that they loved him ~ that did it ~ Caitlyn came out crying like a baby. That was the Williams boy ~ they called him Keegan. One of the saddest things though is that I found out that he was an only child...

Funerals are today starting this morning at 8 and going through 3 ~ Caitlyn decided that after last night she wasn't going. I told her fine. I didn't make her go to Momma's or Pam's so I sure wasn't going to make her go to these. I didn't even make her go to the funeral home with Pam because she was so swollen and didn't look anything like herself and I wanted her to remember her like she looked and not like that...maybe I was wrong, but I wish Momma hadn't of made me went when my Grandma past away and that was what I thought about with my kids.
 
When I was a sophomore and hubby a junior we had a couple of friends killed in a car accident. Sadly, the two had been drinking and driving and had a couple of girls in the car as well. They all were killed and horrifically I might add...closed caskets for all of them. We have to go by that same road on our way home so I think about them and the accident daily.
 
completelyme said:
When I was a sophomore and hubby a junior we had a couple of friends killed in a car accident. Sadly, the two had been drinking and driving and had a couple of girls in the car as well. They all were killed and horrifically I might add...closed caskets for all of them. We have to go by that same road on our way home so I think about them and the accident daily.
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It is a terrible thing to go through. When I was in high school we had two Seniors killed, one was the guy that sat behind me on the bus and he was the cutest, sweetest guy ever. They were killed right outside my house on the main road (we lived on a backroad) and I could see everything. They were playing chicken with her boyfriend and his brother and one other guy. It was terrible and you do think about stuff like that all the time. So many families lives changed in split seconds...scares me to death.


:love: to you and your hubby. I can't imagine if I had been any closer to Tony what it would have been like ~ it was hard enough as it was!
 
:cry: When I was in 8th grade, my best friend asked me if I wanted to go for a ride in her sister's new convertible. I couldn't go as I had to get home and do my homework. There was a terrible accident when her sister's pulled out of the root beer stand and hit another car. My best friend was killed. If I had rode along she would have sat in the back seat with me and wouldn't have died. I have never gotten over it and never really had any close friends till many years later.
 
pmeek said:
:cry: When I was in 8th grade, my best friend asked me if I wanted to go for a ride in her sister's new convertible. I couldn't go as I had to get home and do my homework. There was a terrible accident when her sister's pulled out of the root beer stand and hit another car. My best friend was killed. If I had rode along she would have sat in the back seat with me and wouldn't have died. I have never gotten over it and never really had any close friends till many years later.
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Oh how horrible Pam! I know a little what that is like but not from personal experience. My niece lost her best friend, she committed suicide. It was the beginning of their 8th grade and it still haunts her till this day. Erica had just called her and asked her if she was coming to her house over the weekend...it was like nothing was wrong. According to her parents, she shot herself less than 10 minutes later. My niece went through several terrible years after that. The kids at school started terrible rumors on her and it just made things even worse. It was a really terrible time for my sister ~ I can't imagine what Erica's family was going through!
 
I apologize for not writing this sooner. It is very difficult for me to write this but I felt I should.

Ping, can I make a few suggestions to your child and her friends to help them and the family?

If they know the person well, Write a letter to each family member and share a story about their child. A funny one, a sweet one, maybe even a little mischevious one. Let her write from the heart about the kids.

Don't worry about punctuation or spelling. Just write from the heart.

Ask her to get the other kids in class to do the same.

It will help the family so much to know how loved they were and how much they will be missed by others. You feel so lonely when you have had a significant and tragic loss.

I know personally because when I was 17, my parents were killed right in front of me. It was a horrific accident and I was shattered.

My English teacher came up with the idea. Since we are in a small town, and my parents were very involved in the school and the town, every kid in my school knew them and knew me.

Mrs Peterson came over to my house a few days after the funeral with some food and the letters. In more than a few cases, parents also wrote a letter to me about my parents.

Those letters brought comfort to me. I bawled reading them but I also felt amazing warmth and love. I felt so alone when I lost them. But I realized that others were also hurting and devistated.

I can tell you I still have the letters that my classmates wrote to me after my parents died. I treasure them.

As I said, we are in a small town and everyone knows everyone and it's different in a small town, but it helped the people as much as it helped me.
 
I can't imagine going through what you did...it was hard enough losing Momma the way I did and I am a grown woman. I kept every card and note that I got during that time also. I also started me a journal and would just write down random thoughs. It is amazing what a kind word really does mean at a time like that. I have a friend that I graduated with from high school that just lost her mother 4 months ago to cancer, and even though we weren't real close during school, I have made an extra effort to go out of my way and call her to talk and email and go see her. I don't want her to think I have forgotten her or her pain. There were days I just felt so alone.

I know Caitlyn and her class did do something special for each of the boys. This is a really small town so stuff like this has a lingering effect on everyone. Thanks so much for the suggestions. I will see what all they have done, she might can send her own cards with her own memories also! I can't imagine what those parents are going through ~ just like I can't imagine what you went through...how terrible it must have been for you!
 
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