Thanks for listening

[gosweepwin]

I just need to talk, so thank you for listening. Last Friday, as I drove my son in to pre-K class, I passed two ambulances and the firehouse alarm went off. When we got to school (in a church), there was a funeral service starting up. On the way home, someone ran a stop sign and narrowly missed hitting my car. We live less than two miles from his school. I told my husband that I felt like there was a weird vibe in the air. Later that day, I found out that the second ambulance was there for one of my son's classmates. His mom was walking his older sisters to the school bus stop and a car hit him. He just turned four last week. On Friday he was med-evac'ed to the city's leading hospital. Today I found out that that poor little boy died. I have known this child since his mom and I were pregnant together. I feel so absolutely terrible for the family, so grateful that my own children are safe, and so guilty that I got to hug my little boy today when another mom is left with empty arms.

 

[ll1]

life is a mystery sometimes as to why things happen and the what if's that follow,I always say to be thankful everyday for the day.Because you really don't know what the next will hold and we are all vulnerable in this life to things we just can't know.Being thankful for just being and knowing that we all must face the end of life, but live in away that we would have no regrets no matter what happens to us in this life.It is a very difficult thing, and there must be a hope in our lives to make it through the many trials we go through and don't understand,I just hope that everyone has at least searched for there hope in this life and has a belief that can carry them through. :sunny:

 

[ping1970]

I know the feeling of surviors guilt. My best friend was pregnant when I was with Caitlyn. She went in on her 32nd week and we found out that the baby was dead. She then had to go through labor to delivery the baby the next day. I felt so guilty. I knew that she couldn't be around me at the time, but I wanted her to know that I understood, so I wrote her a letter telling her that I loved her and I would be there when she needed me.

When I got pregnant with Ashelyn guess who was pregnant again. I had Ashelyn at the last of July and the day I came home from the hospital she went into the hospital to see if they could help her save this baby. They only were able to keep her from having him for a few weeks. She had another baby boy that only weighed 1lb ~ 6oz. Jacob had many bad days and I have never prayed so hard in my life. He was in the hospital for over 4 months before he came home with a sleep apnea monitor. Now Jacob and Ashelyn are both 10 years old and he is a healthy, active boy. The only thing that is a lingering effect is a slight hearing loss in one ear.

I know you love your baby, but the feelings that you have are not unusual. I talked to a friend of mine that had a baby right after her sister's baby had died. She felt terrible. Some people just have more epathy than other and things affect them deeper than most. I think that is what you are going through.

I will keep the family of that little boy in my prayers ~ I can't imagine what they are going through to lose a little one like that. I will also keep you and your baby in my prayers. It isn't easy for kids to understand, sometimes it is the parents that feel it the most!

If you EVER need to talk PM me or give me a call. I am here to lend a hand if possible!

Tammy

 

[Wolfie]

I wish I knew what to say to offer comfort. I cannot imagine how tight you must be hugging your children right now. I guess, that is how you should look at this horrible tragedy. It has afforded all the parents in your town to take a moment to really appreciate their children. We all appreciate our families, but when something like this happens, you realize just how much you love them.

It is your compassion for the boys mother that has you feeling the way you do. That shows so much about your character that you are not taking your children for granted, but in fact, are feeling more love for them while you also feel the other mother's loss.

Be there for the mother. Be there for your children. DON'T feel guilty. The best way to remember this little boy is to love your children even more. If you do this, his death has meaning. I know it is hard to see now. I know his mother will never understand.

I hope you are ok. The death of any child is beyond comprehension. I am thinking of you and keeping all in my prayers.

 

[cinphi]

I am so sorry for a couple reasons. One that I didn't see this earlier and of course for the heartache you are feeling.

It is so hard when we loose our loved ones and friends. We know that we all will die but that doesn't make it easy when we experience these kinds of things.

God bless this family and you and your family. I pray the healing process goes by quickly and that the Lord carries all of you.

 

[3mnkids1]

That is awful. I cant imagine a pain worse than losing a child. I will pray for the family.

 

[pmeek]

Such a tragedy. Words can't begin to express what that poor family must be feeling. I lost my best friend when I was growing up and I have never gotten over it. All you can do is love your family, be grateful for what you have and offer support to their family. You are all in my prayers.

 

[pdm]

I'm so sorry about what has happened. It must be hard on everyone the child's family and those that knew him. Just be there for them and keep them in your prayers. I honestly can't say what the pain feels like of losing a child because I've never experienced it I can only imagine what that mom is going thru.