*Is it wrong*

champagne

champagne

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....for me to have went down to the jewelry store where we purchased my engagement ring and exchange it for something......... more me?????? :cry:

When I told my fiance I wanted to get something else, he was soooooo sad...... I told him I wanted a "bridal set" and something that "I just absolutely loveeeee"..... and the one I picked now, I love................. He was sooooo sad and now I feel like :cussing:............. :cry: :cry: :cry:
 
(looks dour)The way the economy and the price of gold is going you won't be able to wear it anyway for fear of someone chopping your finger off or something (I'm just a barrel of laughs today :error:) But you're the person who has to wear it/look at it...
 
Sweetie, I wouldn't know. I never had an engagement ring and we acquired my wedding ring from a battered woman who had left her hubby and needed some fast cash.

What was wrong with the ring for it to NOT be "more you?" Was it big and gaudy? Downright ugly? I don't know if that would help me give you an answer. I was just happy hubby went through with it :laughing:
 
I'm sure he wants you to be happy. You gotta wear it right. :laughing: I don't wear a wedding ring. I had a temper tantrum and flushed it.. :laughing: I don't like jewelry anyway.
 
:cheers: If your engagement ring wasn't part of a set, I can understand wanting to trade it. I prefer the sets myself. Having had a few myself, it's nice to be able to have them soldered together and to wear as one ring. Tell your sweetie that you love him and that as much as you loved the ring that he picked out for you that you want to be able to wear them as one.
Men like to be analytical, so explain that it is much like you and him joining together as one, you want your rings to reflect that same union.
 
Completely.... the ring was "huge", I guess, but I had to get a custom band, etc. etc. etc., it was bigger than a size 7 (it was 7 1/4) so every time I went to take a shower it would fall off (wth??), that was scary, yes, i do understand that there is sizing available... butttt, i'm not interested... I love the one I picked, but now I feel "guilty".... I never meant to upset him :cry:
 
pmeek said:
:cheers: If your engagement ring wasn't part of a set, I can understand wanting to trade it. I prefer the sets myself. Having had a few myself, it's nice to be able to have them soldered together and to wear as one ring. Tell your sweetie that you love him and that as much as you loved the ring that he picked out for you that you want to be able to wear them as one.
Men like to be analytical, so explain that it is much like you and him joining together as one, you want your rings to reflect that same union.
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Exactly Pmeek girl... I'm getting him a unique Irish engraved tungsten ring (with the crosses and celtic knots, etc. flowing throug the band)... something that will symbolize meaning... ya know?? I went for an antique, old soul, but glamarous look for me... I just hope it will be ok???? i feel like i'm walking on egg shells here with him, and only because, I know his heart... he wanted to pick it and me wear it..... I can't :cry:... Like momma of 3 said, I'm the one wearin' it... right??????? :cry:

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This is a tough issue that you both need to work out. I have always dreamed of having a beautiful, fancy ring set but, I don't really say much about it because, I know my husband cannot afford it. He knows, we just don't really talk about it.

I wish you the best with this, it's really hard to say but, there is nothing wrong with wanting something you will enjoy and wear for the rest of your life. :love:
 
I know how you feel in some ways...when Jimmie and I got married I was small ~ really small. Now that I have gained weight I wanted to buy just a cheap wedding ring until I (hopefully) lose weight. He almost died. Had a fit...so I don't wear my engagement ring or a wedding ring...makes me sad.

He can't wear his at work either, so neither of us wear one...I'm sure people can tell we're married by the dull, lifeless looks on our faces though :scratch: :laughing:
 
champagne said:
ping1970 said:
I'm sure people can tell we're married by the dull, lifeless looks on our faces though :scratch: :laughing:
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LOL...zombies??? actually i just watched 28 weeks later for the 100th time..still love it..
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Yep! Zombies Married with children...that's us! Look for the new TV show coming to a local station near you...
 
:sunny: Although the ring he picked out is beautiful, I really love the one that you picked out better. For one thing the one he picked sticks out to much for me, I would be catching it on everything. If it's catching on things, there's a good chance of losing the diamond out of it. On my last set, I was always bending the prongs.
 
I really like the one you picked out better. White gold is more versatile, and the emerald shaped diamond is classic. I prefer princess or emerald diamonds over round.

Tell your fiance it's just a female jewelery thing, and he'll have further opportunities in the future to indulge you.
 
Thanks all for your advice... This morning he was still a little sad but said if that's what makes me happy, it's fine.... He's sooo sweet... Dang I love that guy
 
Maybe more important than the ring is the fact that you can communicate honestly from the start. :)
 
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