TY all very much for the words of encouragement...it has been very stressful...honestly she isnt bad all the time but the last 3 months have been hard..it started at the beginning of december when we found out her violin teacher of 4 years was arrested for molesting 3 girls....my daughter was very hurt about this cuz she cared about him alot...thankfully he never had the chance to do anything to her because my mom sat in every session with her..then 2 weeks later her friends stepdad was arrested for molesting his stepdaughter(who is my daughters friend)...my daughter has had severe emotional problems but all of this just seemed to make it 100x worse...she was on Zoloft for over a year well recently we took her off of it because she started talking about suicide all the time...we put her on Lexapro in the middle of January plus we started couseling through Social Services...which her counselor is totally pissed off that she wasnt notified by CPS when my daughter made the accusations because she knew about everything that had been going on... plus I think the "boys" she was talking to were putting strange ideas in her head and she was feeling guilty about that plus they were pressuring her to do things she didnt feel comfortable doing...for almost 3 weeks after she started the new medicine things were going good...her grades improved and so did her attitude...but them the week before her period came and her behavior went to crap again..she has severe PMS and that is when she started getting in trouble again..so I took her to the doctor again and he upped the dose of her Lexapro last week...so we will have to see if things improve... my nerves have been shot ...everyday I drop her off at school I just sit there waiting for the phone to ring which it usually does about once a week from the school with something about my daughter...so please just keep saying prayers that things will get better...sorry Tracey that I kinda took over your post...butwe can go through this with our daughters together. I feel like you ladies are a great bunch of women to talk to!
Thanks
Tina
Tina, I don't know if you got my pm message. I didn't want to post in the forum. Your daughter sounds alot like me. I had some really awful things happen to me through my teen years 15-17. I went from being a ok kid, ok grades, nice, polite. To a all out hateful little witch! I was not satisfied with anything my parents did for me. My mom would do all kinds of things to help me. And I basically would just do more things to mess up the situation. I was sucidal until I was 18. I skipped school, smoked weed, was very premiscious, and cut myself. I went to 4 different counslors, 7 different mental hospitals, and all kinds of medicine.
Zoloft, paxil, etc.
My life didn't change till the last time I tried to commit sucide. I had came home from the mental hospital (I was upset that I had to leave) and that morning, my mom had left to get donuts. I didn't realize she where she went. And I freaked out, felt really lonely. So I cut myself. (At that point it was an addiction, and something I did alot, so I didn't even stop to think) After that I got so scared my mom was going to be mad. So I took a handful of welbutrin pills. Like about 20. Then I hid in the shower. I heard my mom screaming for me. She was so mad when she found me. She cussed, and couldn't believe I did that agian. She was to the point where she didn't know what to do now. Well she took me to the hospital. They were giving me charcoal drink, and I started feeling like I was going to throw up. Next thing you know. I wake up in a hospital bed in ICU> My mom said I had a seizure. It scared her so much, she thought she was going to lose me. In reality, I didn't want to die, I just did this distructive behavior to get attention. And I was so messed up in my mind. That I thought that was the way to get it. Well they made me go to a "public" children mental hospital. And after that visit there. I was cured of wanting to go to mental hospitals. The private ones are fun. (I know this sounds so wierd) The public ones are boring and digusting.
Well after seeing my moms reaction, I decided never to hurt myself agian.
Fast forward~I was still real messed up in my head. But I didn't want to hurt myself anymore. I started doing counsling more. WEll I met my husband, got pregnant, married, and became a christian. That helped me alot. I was forgiven for all the bad things I had done> I was able to look past all that stuff. ANd I had someone to care for me (my husband) and someone to care for (my daughter)> SUcide is a really selfish thing I found out. And a mom cannot be selfish. Well Ive been on medicine for 5 years now. I was doing real good up to about 3 years ago. And then my insurance stopped. SO I got off my meds and had a break down for about a month. Then I went to a different doctor. And got back on different med. I take lexapro 10 mg a day. Not very much. And My doctor changed my diagnoses, from bipolar, to post tramatic stress disorder. So thats alot better.
I just want to tell you. From the "daughters" prospective. Just because she is doing all this. Doesn't mean you are a bad mother. A bad mother is someone that doesn't even care about all this. Or doesn't try to help. Just try and be there for her. Whenever she needs you. Even if it makes you want to pull all your hair out. Hopefully when she turns about 17 or 18, these things will pass, and she will grow up and realize how stupid these things are. I have. Especially if she has mental issues. She is probably not on the right medicine, and might be unstable. That is really hard for teens to understand. Just be there for her, and make sure she is doing the right things. Taking medicine, going to doc appts, etc. Oh and btw some of the medicines like zoloft, etc can just increase feelings of sucide in kids, and teens. So research some of the meds. Because when I was taking zoloft and paxil, that happened to me.
~Good luck~
You are not overreacting! You can't be too careful when it comes to your kids and the internet. They just don't realize how people lie on the internet, kids are too trusting. 
