Father-in-law/ In Serious Condition/ Doesn't have long/ PRAY!!!

queenofcastle33

queenofcastle33

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A couple of days ago my father-in-law was taken to the hospital for a mild heart attack. While that is bad enough I wish that was the worst. His abdomen was very swollen like an ethiopian. Well after running several test they have determined that his liver only has 10% left! About 3 years ago he was told that he had psoriasis of the liver (mild case). He is a BIG drinker. He quit for a while then started again. My husband pleaded with him to stop but he didn't listen. He used the excuse "I got to die sometime might as well be doing something I like. He is only 56. I know that was the addict in him saying those things. Though if he would have quit his liver would be fine, it would have regenerated and healed. Anyway his boby has been taking on fluid and therefore put more pressure on his heart causing the heart attack. Other than that his heart is healthy. There is new medicine that they are going to try that makes your liver regenerate faster. They said that if this does not work he won't make it out of the hospital.

My husband is understandably upset by this although realizes he brought it on hisself. Which I think it is making it harded to deal with cause of the mix of emotions anger/sadness/helpnesses.

It makes it a little harder to sympathize with my dh for me. I just have to keep reminding myself that it is still his father no matter what! His dad is a great person when he is not drinking.

Please all of you pray for him! Maybe if he makes it through this it will change his life around. If not please pray for my husband to deal with this. I think he feels quilty about not being able to stop him and angry that he didn't stop.
 
I am so sorry to hear about your father in law. I hope you husband is ok. I shall keep them in my prayers.
 
I will say a prayer for your FIL and DH. I know the affects alcohol can have on someone and the people who love them. God bless
 
Sorry to hear about your FIL. Death is hard to deal with no matter how you lose a loved one. My prayers will be with all of you.
 
Thank you all! He is doing a little better. The medicine seems to be working although I had no idea that they could tell that fast. The fluid on his body seems to be down as well. His dad has a catheter and he made the comment "It looks like beer". My dh said "Dad it probably is". :laughing: He is a little back to his self again. Still not out of the woods yet. He keeps going into DTs which makes it hard on his heart and body, but the main thing is there is hope for his liver. That was the most serious. It was an experimental drug and had to be given permission to administer it. Must have been pretty strong stuff. It does have some bad side affects but they are monitoring him closely.
 
Regardless of the addiction, it is hard to watch them go. Momma died of lung cancer after smoking from the age of 13. I hated the addiction, but LOVED my Momma!! Yes, if the worst does happen, you will feel guilt and anger, but also that undying love!!!

Know that you and your family are in my prayers. I hope your fil has a nice long life left to live!! I hope that he sees how bad that drinking has made this illness. It will be hard to quit ~ I hope he has an easy time of it all!!
 
Hey Sweetie. I know how difficult all the mixed feelings can be. My brother-in-law died 2 years ago at the age of only 54. What a shock - a massive heart attack in the middle of the night. I lost both of my parents 14 months apart when I was only 26 (felt more like 18) and I felt orphaned. Lost of family is just the hardest thing to deal with. Your fil, dh & you are all in my prayers. God is always there, sometimes it's just hard to be open to his comfort when we're feeling so much pain. God bless...
 
I just wanted to give a quick update. My fil is home and doing ok. I still feel like it is only a matter of time. He looks so frail and has lost losts of weight. They gave him 6 months to a year. Hopefully this time will give my dh a little time to prepare and not have him gone suddenly. Not that it won't still be hard.
 
I hope he takes another look at his life and changes, at 57 years old and coming to grips with the end should cause a change of heart hopefully he will see things from where he has been and try to make the effort to search for the meaning of life. Hoping things go well :sunny:
 
Death is hard no matter how much you think you are prepared for it. We knew mom wasn't going to make it but still it didn't make it any easier.

I will continue to keep you all in my prayers.
 
SA is about a whole lot more than sweeping, isn't it?

Best thoughts and wishes to you, qc33.
 
Thanks so much for all the comments and prayers! That is so true Art, I started out here because of sweeping but I am now hooked on the forums just as much because of the people.
 
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