David's grandfather has lung cancer

gorgor

gorgor

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His grandfather is in his 80s and despite smoking for over 60 years, he's in good shape. But the last few months since he came to America, he's lost weight, not feeling well, etc.

They thought it was the American food but he was taken to the hospital and he has stage 3 lung cancer. Needless to say, they are in shock right now.

He's not going to live, the family knows that.

David is moving home to help take care of the grandfather.

If anyone has ever gone through this and can give us some advise or at least tell me what to expect, I would appreciate it.

His biotch sister is a nurse and totally made David and his Mom a wreck telling them how horrible his death will be. :cussing:

Thanks for the support
 
I am so sorry to hear this. One of my friend's husbands just recently passed away from lung cancer--he was only 37. If you'd like, I can ask her if she can email you to talk about it a bit. He died less than a year ago, but she has always been a very open person about it, and I would think would be open to talking about it.
 
My thoughts and prayers go out to you and David and his family. I had an aunt who died with lung cancer a couple years ago. She had been diagnosed a few years earlier and was in remission for athose few years before it came back and then she didn't make it. I don't know what stage she was in the first time she was diagnosed. I don't recall the end being very dificult but at that point they give you morfine for the pain.

Again I will say prayers for him and you guys. :love:
 
My condolences.
Lost my aunt to cancer yesterday.
remember to take time for yourselves.
 
:cry: So sorry to hear that news. Poor David and his family must be devastated. Please extend my sympathy to him. A close family support system is a must as the care providers will become exhausted. If they haven't done so already contact Hospice in his area for assistance.
 
Thanks all.

Remarkably, the grandfather is doing better than the rest of the family about this.
 
Michael, I think the important thing is not to lose hope. My brother had a death sentence with his stage 4 renal cancer and is now in remission.

The things to remember, in addition to medical care are nutrition, environment, love/family and prayer. The healthier he lives, the better the quality of life he will have.

Honestly, whatever form of spiritual faith and ritual you have is where I would start. Prayer ritual, meditation, or whatever religious/spiritual ritual is part of your faith will be calming to you. If you include David's grandfather, it may help reduce his stress too and help the family cope with what is likely to come.

It's not going to be easy, no matter what the prognosis, treatment, or end result is. All David can do is be there for his grandparents and parents. All you can do is be there for David and step in to help if needed. The family needs to make sure the doctors are managing the grandfather's pain and making him as comfortable as possible.

David, I will be honored to keep your grandfather in my prayers and hope that you get a miracle like I did. Take full advantage of advances in Western Medicine, but do not exclude the abilities of Eastern Medicine, especially when it comes to pain control!

You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. If you don't take any of my other advice, take this: Make the most of every minute you can spend with him. Tell him thank you and that you love him every chance you have. You have a gift in that you have the opportunity to say everything you have ever wanted to say to your grandfather. You have the rare gift of doing this right so you have no regrets later on. Cancer stinks and I wouldn't wish watching a loved one cope with this on my worse enemy. But, take the positive from it. Cancer gives you the time to reconcile, to appreciate and to genuinely express your love and feelings to your grandfather. Talk to him. Have him tell you his life story. Journal it so you can share it with your kids and then with their kids.

I have learned that every day we get to spend with someone we love is a gift to be treasured. I never learn my lesson, so please, take some good advice. Don't waste a moment. Don't dwell on the bad. ENJOY EVERY MINUTE you get to spend with your grandfather. Have no regrets.

I hope you share many wonderful, healthy, pain free days/months/years with your grandfather. Don't give up. You don't know what tomorrow will bring.

I hope I didn't sound too preachy. This is all still fresh with me too. :)
 
My Momma had lung cancer. We lost her on Feb. 2, 2005. It seems like yesterday in so many ways. Let me start by saying that the cancer did NOT kill my Momma. Momma died of the after care that she had when they removed the bottom part of her right lung. She wanted the cancer out of her body ~ period! She knew it was a risky surgery and she came out of the surgery in wonderful condition. She just wasn't treated well by the nursing staff after her surgery and had pneumonia set up in her lungs and it was just more than her body could take. From the time that Momma was diagnosed until the time she passed away was 23 days I think.

I have a lot of regrets about those 23 days! Everyone swarmed my Mom wanting to spend time with her. Friends and neighbors and I backed off and let them. I kept on thinking that I would have time after her surgery while she was recovering to spend more time with her...my sister, Karen, did the exact same thing. It is funny how people that you haven't seen in years suddenly show up and want to spend time with you...if I had it to do over again, I would make sure that I had more time. I am so glad that David has moved in to spend that extra time with his Grandfather and to give them that extra support at this time! It will mean so much to them.

Momma's cancer was considered late stage 3 or early stage 4. They really thought that she would be around at least another 5 years. I never thought that I would lose her so fast. It has been the hardest thing I have ever had to live through, but watching her suffer through cancer would have been worse. I am thankful that her suffering was minimal.

I don't know what else to say ~ I am just sort of babbling. I am always here for you or David ~ all you have to do is PM...I will be praying for you all!
 
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